Angel, it is improper for the court to ask anyone if they are "legal" residents, and it's no one's business if your Mom is there to support your sister. This is especially true of your sister is going to court on a Domestic Violence case.
If your Mom is going to be a witness (testify/tell things to the Judge) then you have to make sure someone is there that can translate for her into English.
You have a couple of choices in trying to get a trial date to get a divorce.
First, I would check with your local courthouse to see what forms are required to ask for the Trial date (they vary from county-to-county). Some courts require you to first go through a Mandatory Settlement Conference before getting a trial date.
Second, you can ask for a separate Trial just on the issue of ending your marriage; it's called a motion for "bifurcation of status" and you can use statewide forms (FL 300,...
STOP CONTACTING HER NOW!
Look at the terms of the restraining order. It clearly says you should not contact her in any way. By leaving these notes you are (1) violating the order and (2) proving her case. Also, you should at least consult with a criminal defense attorney about what you're up against.
This is a question better posted for the criminal defense, rather than Domestic Violence, forum.
However, you should talk to your defense attorney about making a motion at the pre-Trial to have the case dismissed in the interests of justice.
There are statutes that allow the DA to proceed even without the complaining witness; they sometimes recant/retract like your girlfriend did and they can use the 911 tape, police report, or other statements to try to proceed against you.
Again, the best...
If you've got a stable home close to your sons' school and dad's home, then you could try to get the custody arrangements in place that provide for them to be able to get to and from school safely. However, you would basically have the boys staying with the family member and it is unclear if there's room for them in your current home.
I suggest you continue to develop the relationship with the boys, and work on getting a place for them that would allow you to have them both with you. Try to...
There are two issues here; reimbursement for child support and the child custody issues.
Your partner should put together a complete accounting of all reimbursement claims owed by his ex-wife - bills, Explanation of Benefits forms, invoices, checks, credit card receipts, etc. - and send them to her with a demand for payment under the terms of the order. If she fails to do that then file an application with the court to have her ordered to pay it, or to have the amount offset the ongoing child...
Hopefully your divorce Judgment includes an "indemnification clause" which provides for her to owe to you what you pay on her behalf.
Example: you've paid $2,400 over the last couple of years to GMAC. if the Judgment allows it then you can ask the court for an order that your ex owes you $2,400.
Then you can take that court order & enforce it against her bank account or paycheck.
I suggest you consult with a family law attorney that also knows collection work to maximize your chances for...
If there are no orders regarding the oldest daughter then you could move without an order, but I don't recommend it.
Instead, put together a calendar of ALL the time her father spent with her over the last year (or as far back as you can go).
You may want to be the one to go to court to ask for "permission" to move with your daughter. In some cases where there is little contact between the parent and the child there can be a "presumed right to move" with the child.
However, this is a...
Someone trying to get a civil harassment restraining order must show that you had no lawful purpose for your contacting them, that you unlawfully contacted them repeatedly, and that they suffered some kind of harm because of these unlawful contacts.
There is no "statute of limitations" for the acts that a person seeking an order wants to include, so they can go back longer than a year if appropriate.
Practically speaking, do you have any reason to see/talk to/be with this person? If not then...
Child support in California is payable until it is paid in full. It does not matter how old the children are when you try to collect. If you already have a case open the the Department of Child Support Services then provide then all the information you have about your Ex so they can enforce the order. If you don't already have a case open then you should, since they're a "free" service (your tax dollars at work!).