You should consult a criminal lawyer. The D.A. will review the police report and determine what charges if any to file. If you hire a lawyer now, the lawyer can advocate your interests to the issuing unit D.A. assigned to review your case. There may be facts or information not in the police report which you want the D.A. to know.
Go to the arraignment and ask for the public defender to represent you. You have a possibility of having the charges reduced to an infraction or even dismissed in what is called a civil compromise. The fee from Michaels is separate from the criminal case, but if you ignore it, they can send you to a collection agency. It may affect your ability to get a job with a misdemeanor theft on your record, which is why you want to fight the charges.
A lawyer may appear in court and continue the case without so you don't have to change your travel plans. However, you may want to return at the continued hearing to testify to increase your chances of beating the Restraining Order. A lawyer can proceed at the first court date and have the hearing without you but you run a significant chance of the judge discounting your declaration over live testimony.
You face two DMV suspensions. One for the arrest and the second for conviction. If you were also on probation for the first DUI, you also faced a suspension. Although the arrest for the second shouldn't have resulted in one year for drugs, it may have been because you were on probation. The restriction is complicated by the fact you may been on DUI probation at the time of the second which would have caused a one year suspension. It is unclear whether you are eligible for a restriction....
Please understand once you call the police there is no turning back the clock. Many people call the police in anger and then later regret it due to unintended consequences. I don't feel comfortable advising you how to prosecute someone since I defend people like your daughter's ex-boyfriend.
The court will appoint the public defender at your arraignment if you cannot afford to hire one. Listen to the lawyer who is appointed and make sure they are aware of all the facts and good things you have done in your life. Be careful about hiring lawyers. It is not always the best option if you have a serious case and not enough money to hire competent counsel.
There are too many variables to answer the question. A lawyer would need to know the dollar amount of the loss , how many counts, your dad's exact participation in this scheme, and what your dad thought he was doing. Even then, it might be a roll of the dice giving you numbers. Good luck.
Either hire a lawyer or ask for the public defender at your arraignment. There are reductions in charges available. Yes this does go on your record if you are convicted. I realize there are different opinions on what to do with the civil demand. It is not a part of the criminal case. Where I disagree with other views is that sometimes paying the civil demand gets you a better settlement on the criminal case. You should consult a criminal lawyer, however, before paying the civil demand.