Yes...that happens all the time, then u have go into court and get proof u took care of your court case (this is called an "Abstract of Judgment"). I suggest u hire an attorney to deal with the court case ASAP.
Definitely go back to court and let them know what you are able to do and when. If you were represented by an attorney, let them know and they can help you get back into court and get everything squared away. The clerk's office at the courthouse would be a good place to start.
It is possible that these issues could have some relevance to your case. However, technicalities of this sort usually do not bear much fruit. Much of defending DUI cases is common sense. The best angles that I have found usually occur when the police try and cut corners and not handle your arrest by the letter of the law. This is when an experienced DUI attorney can best help you. I suggest you pick a few attorneys to sit down with and give more information and get a free consultation.
Need more information to give you an accurate answer. On the surface, there seems to be missing information. I agree with my colleague, there is probably nobody here who could advise you. Have you called the attorney who is representing both clients? I would start there. Next, you can always raise your concern to the local state bar if you feel there are some ethics violations.
If the court that ordered the no contact said it's ok to contact the children, u r fine there. As far u sending him things, u won't get prosecuted but it waters down the effect if the protective order.
Obviously the decision whether to help someone in that situation is a personal choice. However, if they do help her and she flees the jurisdiction, they will be responsible for paying the money for the signature bond. Good luck.
I agree with Mr. Gross' answer and would add that there are a number of different avenues an experienced criminal defense attorney can explore to try and protect your record. Once big factor will be what you allegedly stole...the less value, the better position you will be in to negotiate. I would wait on telling your employer and see what the result is on your case. There is an arrest record on there now that will be very difficult to seal.