A good attorney will move your case along, Some delays cannot be prevented, even by a highly skilled and aggressive attorney. You should sit down with your attorney and ask him to explain what is going on with your case. If he is interested in keeping you as an attorney, he will be gratefull for the oppportunity to go over your case with you. You can always change attorneys but that might not be in your best interest. If you are unhappy with your attorney, you can also seek a second opinion.
You should always be wary of the state lien on your mother's share of the property and you should consult an expert in this field before selling the property. Medicaid's lien would apply to your only to your mother's presumably 1/2 interest in the home.
The judge will determine if the child is mature enough to testify. The child's wishes can be considered as well as the other factors in Civil Code Article 134. Judges believe that children can be put in the middle and as a result do not give the weight to the child's preference that one parent may think should be given.
It is very difficult to get instant results. You should file for support as soon as possible and ask your attorney whether a motion to access community funds would be successful. As a rule, you must wait until the hearing officer conference or hearing to get any relief.
You should consult with a criminal attorney. Most jurisdictions offer pretrial diversion for first offense shoplifting. If that is the case for you, you will still need the assistance of an attorney to expunge the arrest. Some people can do all of this without an attorney but most cannot.