Judy and I have seen this trick before. My approach, which will differ from others, is to very quietly get as much information as possible. The FB posts, for example. Witnesses who cater the shop and can testify as to who the "real" owner is. Then I depose dad, have him bring in all his bank statements. If I know where he's banking, I may just subpoena them instead. Then I zero in on his physical assets; car, homes, etc. The court can enter a "reasonable" support award due to default, OR...
Will she agree to this? If so, just write it in the MSA. If she won't, you're probably wasting your time. Keep in mind, just because you sign over the house doesn't mean you can sign over the mortgage (if any).
Talk to a family law attorney in your area for specific guidance.
Leave to Amend. Must be granted by judge first. Most will let you make an oral motion, but check with your specific judge's protocols. If you're struggling with the answer, consider getting an attorney - because once you get hit with the marital interrogatories, you may wish you had one.
Generally misconduct doesn't impact the division of assets/debts/monies under Illinois law. Can be a factor for custody. Avvo lets us give you a rough idea of the water "temp," but there's no way anyone on here can give you "turn-by-turn" directions - which is what you need.
That said, call up a Will County family law attorney, or if you need a referral, contact the Will County Bar Association. No one likes hiring lawyers, but often in cases involving families and livelihoods, that's the...
I get cautious when I see these types of questions, because I have to wonder if an OP is hanging out there that you don't know about. Irregardless, you need to do something NOW - talk to a family law attorney, contact legal aid - anything other than doing nothing.
I don't know when your court date is, but if you let him retain possession of the children for 1-4 weeks while you wait for your presentation date, the judge is going to wonder "why" you sat by and did nothing.
DO NOT take...
You need to talk to a family law attorney in the county this matter is pending in first. Don't pass go, don't collect $200. You need to be advised 1) whether his petition is being properly brought the court, and 2) what you need to specifically do. The court may have jurisdiction over the marriage, but it's unclear whether if there's jurisdiction over custody/you/etc. Without an intake or seeing the paperwork/casefile, there's not much to say.
Contact the Chicago Bar Association, or a...
One of you MUST be an Illinois Resident 90 days before filing or 90 days before judgment. This is an UNWAIVABLE requirement. If you are both out of country, Illinois may not (for now) be the best venue - talk to a family law attorney in your area for specific guidance.
Lawyers are like cars. Some are cheap, some not so much. Make and models vary, features vary, and RELIABILITY varies. Get the one that's right for you - if you're not sure, ask around, or contact your local bar association for a referral.
Attorney Goldstein is correct. We don't say this to talk our book, every so often on AVVO we see a question posted that's so high stakes that it would be sheer insanity to handle it pro se. In this case, you need to talk to a family law attorney YESTERDAY. If you're not sure who to talk to, contact your county bar association for a referral.