You left out some facts that I need to fully answer your question. Do you have children? What type of property do you own? I assume you do not own any real estate and our renting. What is each of your employment status? If you do not care about the apartment or any liability associated with it (or things you leave inside it), then I see no reason why you can't move out of state. IL is a now fault state, so being charged with abandonment does not matter much. Abandonment is two years with...
A lawyer can your case for a lower flat fee is you have no issues with your case and your wife agrees to divorce and has no issues. You can try filing on your own with court, but it will take you a lot longer to figure it out. It depends on how much your time is worth.
You should check to see if you are divorced already in the County where you live or your spouse might live. You can get divorced by publication if you have tried to locate your spouse but cannot. Call me if you would like to discuss it.
There are a lot of factors in IL the court is obligated to use when determining college contribution. The trend has been for them to order both parents to pay based on their ability to pay. However, it is more complicated than that. You need to demonstrate your inability to pay college expenses and meet you own financial needs. Call me if you would like to discuss your situation.
You can hire a private investigator to help you locate him. If you don't have property or children, then I suggest you get divorced by publication. He does not need to be served to get divorced. Call me if you would like to discuss your case.
You have a lot of issues here. First, if the issue is "reserved." That just means that the court can consider giving her some of your PI settlement. It is not guaranteed. She would need to file a petition. She has that ability, but there is no guarantee she would get any money. Also, your divorce is more than 2 years old so it would be more difficult to bring a case for fraud about the undisclosed house. Call me if you would like to discuss the case in more detail. If you never agreed...
College expenses is decided on a case by case basis. If the child has funds in his/her name (like inheritance or trust funds), the court would likely order the them to contribute. College expenses will be based on both parties income, assets and financial ability to pay. The general trend is for courts to make parents pay for college expenses if they can afford it. Give me a call if you would like to discuss this issue further.