At the final prove-up hearing a court reporter transcribed the proceedings, taking down the questions and answers for the hearing. The transcript of it was filed with the court. It is wise to keep a file stamped copy in your records.
Although adultery is a ground for divorce, it does not help improve the outcome. The division of your property and any terms regarding custody are not affected by the adultery. You likely have less confrontational grounds for divorce that you may want to consider.
The divorce decree signed by the judge is the one that is in force. If changes are to be made, a motion must be filed with the court and notice to you provided. There needs to be a legal basis to change the divorce decree. An error, under certain circumstances, may be corrected. Cases such as yours are very dependent upon the facts and you should consult a lawyer to help you.
I agree, there is no way you can waive child support in a prenuptial agreement. Doing so is against public policy and that provision would be voided. However, you can waive maintenance (spousal support), but there are situations where a waiver of maintenance may not be upheld. The fact that you did not have an attorney may be a factor in your favor, but all the relevant facts must be examined. See an attorney for legal advice.
Under Illinois law you can ask for the right to exclusive possession of the home. However, a judge can order exclusive possession while a case is pending only if it is found that your or the children’s physical or mental well being is jeopardized by the two parties living together. This type of finding is based upon the facts of your case. I note that the burden of proof rests with you and it is not easy to prove. You should seek legal counsel to learn your rights and maximize your chances of...
The court cannot go back and undo the child support order. The past due amounts will be owed, but a payment plan may be worked out. If a lump-sum of money can be raised, he may be able to negotiate a reduced payment. Also, child support not paid is considered a judgment and the amount owed is increased for it, at 9% per year. Your friend needs to hire an attorney immediately to explore his options and he should consider filing a motion to modify his obligation now.