Yes, your wife might be entitled to a portion of your settlement, but that is not written in stone. Many factors go into the determination of if, and if so, how much. If you are in divorce proceedings, you need to discuss this matter with your attorney.
The simple answer is - yes. The slightly longer answer is that you and your attorney should have signed an engagement letter (a/k/a retainer agreement) which sets forth how you will be billed, and how much you are to pay, as well as you and your lawyers' other rights and responsibilities. Please contact your attorney to discuss this matter. You should not be charged to talking about billing.
The language is rude and the owner is a jerk. Why you continue to patronize the restaurant is beyond comprehension. If people stop going there, he will straighten up his act or be forced to close his doors. The owner will not be able to have you arrested. Stay away from there. Plenty of other eating establishments would welcome your business.
You may withdraw your Petition for Dissolution. Do it by motion if you can, and send notice to your wife. If you have a court date coming up, the judge may allow you to withdraw your Petition by oral motion, but only if you wife also shows up for court. It is best to withdraw in writing with proper notice. The case will then be dismissed unless your wife has filed a Counter-Petition for Dissolution. A Counter-Petition is not the same as a Response.
This is very unusual but it can be done. Go to the clerk of the circuit court where your divorce was heard and file a Notice and Motion to Vacate your Judgment. Do it ASAP and certainly no later than 30 days from yesterday. Both of you must appear in court on the designated day and tell the judge you wish to vacate your Judgment for Dissolution. If you do not wish to proceed with the divorce at all, whoever filed the original Petition for Dissolution should also ask to withdraw it. Then...
This is a common practice in divorce cases. It is perfectly ethical. The purpose is to avoid the need, possible embarrassment, and expense of service of the summons and petition for dissolution of marriage. If you are intimidated, you can disregard the attorney and consult with one or more family law practitioners. Then hire the one you like the best.