I cannot answer your question about whether you will be fined for missing mediation. You will need to speak with the person in charge of the mediation.
You should post your questions concerning short sale to the real estate part of AVVO.
I am sorry for the problems you are experiencing and with you the best of luck with the short sale.
I am sorry to hear about your difficult situation.
You need to meet with a local divorce attorney as soon as possible. You know you cannot trust what your spouse is telling you.
How to retain an attorney without funds is a difficult question to answer. Some attorneys accept credit cards. Could you get a loan from friends or family? Is there a pro bono assistance center in your county?
I am not sure what you mean when you say "she seems to think this is a freebie."
How to use the tax refunds is something the divorcing parties will need to agree about or the court will make an order concerning how the refunds should be used or allocated.
Moving out of state now will make it more difficult and expensive for you to participate in the divorce. Before you move, you must speak with a local divorce attorney to understand your rights and the divorce process. You cannot make good decisions without information about your legal rights.
Disclaimer: Answering this question does not create an attorney client relationship. It is not legal advice.
You need the help of a local, experienced divorce attorney. It must be very difficult for you and the children under the present circumstances.
You could also consider asking your spouse to try mediation. If the two of you could work out a temporary agreement in mediation, it might make things easier until you can get the divorce granted.
You should immediately contact a local divorce attorney for representation and advice. Your lawyer will lead you through what will surely be a difficult time. You do have options. You need expert help.
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I suggest you speak with your attorney again about how to keep the divorce process moving. You should ask your attorney your question about summary judgment. I do not know the law in Ky. In Wisconsin, where I practice law, summary judgment is not used in a divorce case.
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I am sorry you find yourself in this confusing position. Unfortunately, your divorce Judgment did not include a tax provision that is acceptable under federal tax code. As you have found out, if you are divorced during the tax year 2009, you can't file a joint return for 2009. I think you will either have to work this out directly with your former spouse - perhaps with the help of the professional preparing the tax returns - or consult an attorney about amending the divorce Judgment.
Is there a Court order that requires this schedule? If so, I suggest you hire an attorney to file a motion with the Court to change the Order.
If there is no court order requiring the morning time, offer to discuss alternatives with your daughter's father. There is no reason that his opinion about the schedule should veto your ideas, unless there is a court order requiring it.
Consider going to mediation with your daughter's father to work out a more reasonable schedule.
If both your names are on the lease, you will probably not be able to force your former girlfriend out. You will probably have to be the one to move if you no longer want to live together. However, you are jointly on the lease, you are probably iable to pay the lease whether you live there or not, so before you move, you will want to speak with the owner about negotiating a termination of your legal obligations under the lease.