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  • How do i go about getting into the military as single parent and not getting married and how much does it cost roughly.

    I planning on going into the military and want to give my mother custody of my 2 year son until i finish basic and ait in united states army. I really cant find a job and i have been debated wether or not to go into the reserves but the reserve ju...

    Diane’s Answer

    You are facing life changing decisions You need to talk with someone you trust and consider getting counseling or therapy before making these decisions. I don't know what you are asking the cost of.

    You will have to speak with a recruiter to get the details of what it takes to enter the military as a single parent.

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  • I am married to the mother of my child.. how do i go about getting right to my daughter. i don't make much money..

    i don't make much money for this to be drawn out in court.

    Diane’s Answer

    You haven't given enough information in your question for me to understand your situation. If you are not living with your spouse, and you want to file for divorce, your rights to your daughter will be included in a divorce decision.

    If you and your spouse are in contact with one another, try talking about your goals for your involvement with your daughter. Consider mediation as a first step if you and your spouse need help communicating.

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  • I have primary legal custody of my 13 year old daughter and she wants to live her my half sister.............can she?

    I am seeing a man that my daughter does not like can she decide where she wants to live?

    Diane’s Answer

    At age 13, your child is not in a good position to decide where she wants to live. You and her father should be making those decisions in her best interests. Her father may object if you allow her to go live with a relative.

    I suggest you retain a local family lawyer for advice on this issue.

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  • Can a 14 year old decide she wants to live with her mom in a different state than her father.

    she has lived with her dad and they do not get along at all after spending the summer here she has decided she wants to stay.

    Diane’s Answer

    I suggest the parents talk about what is best for their child and try and agree about where she should live for the school year. If the parents cannot agree, the parent wishing to change the Court Order would need to file an action to amend the judgment.

    Disclaimer: This is not legal advice.

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  • I have a 13 almost 14 year old stepdaughter, that has decided that she now would like to move back to her home town and live

    with father, when her parents got divorced, her mother moved her and her younger sister out of town away from all thier friends and family. i was just wondering at what age she could ask the court to let her come and live with her father.

    Diane’s Answer

    I suggest that the parents talk with each other about what is best for this child. If they both agree on the move, the child will not have to feel like she is choosing one parent over the other.

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  • I have a friend who would like a separation from her husband, can she move out with young children, without his agreement?

    She asked for mediation but he won't cooperate to make appointment, and keeps asking for marriage counseling. She wants a mediated separation and shared parenting. She does not want a contested divorce for children's sake. He says for children's ...

    Diane’s Answer

    The risk of your friend's proposed move is that her husband will try to use the fact that he is in the family home as a reason that the children should be placed with him.

    Your friend should seek the advice of a local divorce attorney. She should check out the possibility of doing a Collaborative Divorce. Like mediation, collaboration is an alternative to court based litigation in divorce cases.

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  • Can my husband take my kids from me?

    My husband left about a year and a half ago after 14 years of marriage. I am now starting to get things together for our divorce. When I told him that I was entitled to part of his pension he threanted to take the kids from me. When he moved out...

    Diane’s Answer

    You should seek the advice of a local, experienced divorce attorney.

    You should consider trying to work out placement and custody of the children in mediation. You and your husband will need to find a way to parent the children together even while you live apart.

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  • Do i need permission from my husband to take our kids on vacation to another state even if we are seperated, not legally?

    Me and my husband recently seperated i have seen a lawyer only for a free consultation neither of us has hired a lawyer nor are we even in the process of divorce, i dont believe me talking to a lawyer makes us legally seperated but i want to take ...

    Diane’s Answer

    I don't know the law in Tenn so I advise you to seek local divorce representation. That being said, have you spoken with your husband about the trip? Why not just let him know your plans and make sure he is okay with it? You will be co-parenting for the rest of your kids' lives even if you do get divorced. I would say you should try to keep communicating now for the sake of the children.

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  • Do I need a lawyer for my divorce if my ex-husband lives in another state?

    I moved out from my Phoenix, AZ house with my two kids about 3 weeks ago. First I asked my ex-husband to move out and he refused to leave. I decided to leave and move to my own house. The day before I moved, he packed all of his stuff and took off...

    Diane’s Answer

    It is better to hire a lawyer. You have described a complicated legal situation and one that involves the best interests of your son. It is better to get legal representation and have the divorce done right than to try and go ahead without a lawyer and find out later that you have missed important rights by trying to do the divorce yourself.

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