I agree that you should contact Social Security right away and have the representative payee and deposit changed. However, keep in mind that if the nursing home tries to keep the checks that come in while this change is being processed, they must return them if you ask, because Social Security income cannot be taken to pay a debt. They do not have the right to hang onto it for the outstanding bill.
There are differences between a guardianship and a conservatorship, so the answer is not the same for both. My answer is based on Wisconsin law.
First, the similarities: Both are types of court proceedings. Both involve court approval of an individual to handle the finances of another individual. (In guardianships, it could also relate to non-financial decisions but for sake of this question, let's focus on a guardianship of the estate which is for financial purposes.) Both create a "...
The answer to this question depends in large part on your mother's documents. Typically, the cost of completing a distribution is actually an administrative cost of the estate, but possibly your mother's will says something different. A personal representative has a duty to safeguard the estate property, so in some cases there is a very good reason not to let beneficiaries go through the house, but it depends on the case. I recommend you hire a lawyer to represent your interests as a beneficiary.
That depends on whether your dad and your mother had an agreement in place before he died. In Wisconsin, married couples can change the basic assumptions of marital property law with a written agreement. Because of your mother's situation, in this case an elder law attorney would possibly be able to advise you even better than an estate planning attorney.
You can petition to have a probate opened.
Whether you want to do that or not is a totally different question.
These days, houses in probate have the potential to be big headaches. They can be complicated, especially if there is an outstanding mortgage. The question is whether there is any equity in the house.
In a case recently, I advised heirs not to bother opening a probate, since the house was the only asset, it was underwater and they would not get anything.
So, there may be...
I do not practice in your state, but I can give you a general answer. Not all assisted living facilities are operated by the state, in fact a good number of them are privately owned and operated. However, in most states, all assisted living facilities are subject to regulation by the state, and often by the federal government as well. So even a privately owned assisted living facility will usually have to follow state rules and regulations in order to operate legally.
This is one of the things where, if it is important enough to you that you want to pursue it, you will need to consult with a lawyer. You have two sets of issues: Procedural hurdles to see if there is a way you can still assert your claims in the case, and substantive hurdles to prove the claim. These are complicated legal issues. Analyzing it to home repair, these issues are not changing a lightbulb or even a fixture, they are gutting out the entire bathtub (the case that is already over),...
It is more than just a form, you will need the court to approve the resignation. The court is not likely to do this without a successor guardian. Depending on where the guardianship is in place you may want to request your county Adult Protective Services unit for help.
Unfortunately, that is the problem with informal understandings, such as the one you believed was in place about the house. These are difficult to enforce. However there may be some options, as well as the undue influence concerns raised by the attorneys who also answered this. You should consult with a lawyer about the options.