You should contact a criminal defense lawyer; most offer free consultations.
Good for you for paying his deductable, for paying the insurance company, and for going to AA. Definitely document everything--get receipts for your payments and get a piece of paper stamped at AA meetings.
If criminal charges are filed, immediately contact a criminal defense lawyer. You should also refrain from posting anything online or talking about it; what you say can and will be used against you in court....
You would be playing with fire and would likely get burned if you engage in such conduct with a drunk girl.
Unless prison time, the sex offender registry, fines, and lost employment opportunities sounds good to you, I suggest you stay away from the drunk girls.
Even if you aren't convicted, a rape accusation will cost you thousands of dollars in attorney's fees and will still horribly tarnish your reputation.
If you had a relationship with a drunk girl, do not post anything about it...
This is a sovereign citizen-style argument. Cops and judges don't buy it. You will be ticketed, and in Ohio, if you drive without a license, you face up to six months in jail and/or up to a $1,000 fine.
You should immediately let your attorney know that you need an extension of time to complete the program. He should file a motion with the court to ask for the extension of time. It is better to do this before the deadline lapses.
Your boyfriend needs to immediately and privately consult with a criminal defense attorney. What he says to people and/or writes online can be used against him in court. He should not talk to you about the case, because you can be forced to testify against him in court.
Unfortunately for your situation, you don't really have a say as to whether or not your boyfriend is prosecuted. The government prosecutor gets to decide whether or not the case goes forward.
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You should contact an attorney in your area who practices in the area of family law. He or she could be able to get a civil protection order against her.
Also, said attorney could also try sending your ex-wife a cease-and-desist letter to let her know that if she doesn't knock her harassment off, that you may be able to sue her for slander.
Your situation is not rare; I've dealt with a number of clients who have vindictive former girlfriends and wives.
Also, you should document...
You should consult with a criminal defense lawyer. They have the knowledge and training to see if your rights were violated and whether you would be able to get evidence excluded. A prosecutor is much more likely to give a lawyer a better plea offer than they would to a pro se litigant.
You can get into HUGE trouble for taking and sending such images (even if they were of yourself). Ohio prosecutors have been cracking down lately on teenage sexting. If you created photographs of yourself when you were 15 years old and sent them to someone, you can be prosecuted for manufacturing, possessing, and distributing child pornography. This is a felony of the second degree in Ohio and carries sex offender registry listing if convicted. http://codes.ohio.gov/orc/2907.321