Well is your home unfit for children? It doesn't sound like it from what you're saying, nor do her claims sound particularly meritorious especially given the way your husband obtained custody himself. In order for this case to affect yours, your children's father would have to file his own case and make the same allegations. Each case is decided on its own merit, and while, theoretically, your child's father and your husband's ex might work together to try and find evidence on your household...
In general, you should send sufficient clothing, however, you are not obligated to pay for his day to day expenses when he is with the other parent. If your decree or court order says something different then follow the order or decree.
File a memorandum opposing a new hearing and attach the papers from the previous one. While I agree that everyone should be heard,
If they don't show it's on them. Also a lawyer's negligence is imputed to the client. I would also ask for attorney fees in the event a new hearing is granted.
If you attempted to do this on your own, that's likely why you failed. Child support cases are complex and it's not a matter of simply showing a paycheck and saying that you don't make as much as you used to. Everyone says that. You need to meet with a family law attorney and discuss what went wrong and what you can do the next time. The Magistrate's / hearing officer's decision should be a good place to start. Also if you were turned down recently, you may be able to appeal. There's a...
Consider what you have alleged. You blocked him from a social network site (not sufficient to put him on any type of notice for anything). He then contacted you. You then put him on notice. His friends then contacted you. Do you have proof he told them to call you? He's not in control of 3rd parties. He then commented on a post after you unblocked him. I doubt commenting on a post meets the definition of contacting you.
You have already put him notice. If he contacts you again, file...
I would start seeking out younger attorneys who may lack huge experience, but may be more willing to work with you on a payment plan. Once the divorce is filed you can ask that she pay your attorney fees along with child support and spousal support. That's a reasonable request given that you are staying home to watch the kids and exactly what happens when the shoe is on the other foot and the woman is the stay at home parent.
A bit of advice, do not move out of the marital home and do...
If you have your kids, hire a lawyer and file for child support on her or file to have child support terminated and custody formally changed to you. This is a legal proceeding that isn't cured by a phone call or a letter. You need a lawyer.
You are going to have to prove the value of the work you contributed and whether any marital money was spent on the houses. The inheritance is her separate property otherwise. I would definitely consult an experienced divorce attorney in your area. This is quite a complicated issue.
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