If dad is the established father, he should have parental responsibility (custody). However, if the courts were never notified, or if paternity has never been established, you should still hold that role. You should consult an attorney to investigate the matter, check the court file, and discuss your options.
Father is going to have to agree to terminate his parental rights. Otherwise you will have to petition and convince the court that his rights should be terminated in the child's best interest. That is probably the hardest issue to prove in family law. Once you are successful, then you would go forward with the adoption. There you must prove that such is again in the child's best interest. You will require the assistance of an experienced family law attorney. Do not go it alone.
The state must act to charge him, or he must be released. If he is charged, the judge can, but probably will not reconsider bond without a motion. You definitely need an attorney to help you. I offer reasonable fees and payment plans. Call for a free consult. 407-426-5757.
Even if she does not have a job, you should still go back to court and ask the judge to impute an income to her equal to what she is capable of making. If she is not disabled, she can at least earn minimum wage. As for determining if she is working I agree with the other attorney.
This will probably be charged as a second degree misdemeanor. Usually you will be offered probation with a fine and a class. However, the maximum is 60 days in jail. You should retain an attorney to help you try to have the case dismissed or to try to enter into some type of diversion program.
Generally speaking, the length of a contract does not determine if it can be enforced. There are other factors to look at such as consideration, acceptance, and unconcionability. Consult with a local attorney who can review the document for you and give a more definite answer.
If an order was entered, you will want to move to modify the plan. However, you will need to show a substantial change in circumstances. See the clerk, ask to view the file and find out if an order was entered on the plan.