First, I am sorry to hear that you had a bad experience with mediation. It is a very effective way of resolving disputes and hope you don't give up on using it in the future. I am not certain how California handles court-ordered or court-referred mediation, but in Georgia, the parties are given the opportunity to choose their mediator. Mediation, even court-ordered mediation, is a voluntary process. I would review your Notice or Order to mediate and determine what office is in charge of...