Needless to say this is extremely serious. There are not even enough facts upon which a reasoned response may be based. There may be diminished capacity defenses that could be explored. A criminal defense is certainly very expensive for those charges. Public defenders perform their jobs extremely well. If your cousin is unsatisfied with his counsel, he should consider obtaining a loan to pay for a defense.
The probate code provides for processes to distribute property when someone dies intestate or testate. You and her children should consult an attorney to review the facts and represent the administrator of the estate that wil need to be opened for probate.
First you must stop posting statements on the Internet where you admit the criminal conduct. The points made by my colleagues that you each should retain lawyers and help you assert your rights will likely result in the police having a difficult time proving that a crime was ever committed. However, you post is essentially a confession.
Be cautioned that you may have bail conditions that bar your communication/contact with each other. You should in fact consult with and retain an attorney....
You can go to the local police department and obtain the police report. The attorney cannot get it online or in any fashion without your consent. The attorney is not going to seek out the report without being retained first. You should have contacted your insurance company immediately regarding the accident. Most insurance policies require a very prompt report to be made. Failure to notice them may result in barring of coverage. You have 2 years from the date of the accident to bring a...
First you should stop making public admissions to your criminal conduct. Making false statements to law enforcement may be a criminal offense. Next, you should consult with and retain an attorney to present you on the family law and possible criminal matter. Discuss the facts with counsel, not on the internet.
Each parent should be assigned some level of income unless disabled. You will be required to continue to pay support unless and until your ex-wife gets remarried, your parental rights are terminated and her new husband adopts the children. You should consult with and retain an attorney.