I agree with the other two answers you received. It is your Mother's choice to obtain new counsel if she is not comfortable. However, when the time comes for you to be Executor you want to make sure you can get along with the probate attorney and can work with that attorney. You are not required to use your Mother's attorney for the probate process. As Execuotr, you can pick the attorney you want to work with.
If you have shared legal custody, you have the right to go to the day care and ask for a copy of the contract. If they won't give itto you then you or your attorney can file amotion withthe Court asking the Court to order that the daycae provide tht to you.
It is possible to transfer the property as you have suggested, however it has to be a fiduciary deed and the other siblings will have to sign an assignment to convey their share of the property to your husband. I would need to know if you have oped an estate or not. If not this would be the first step in the process before any transfer can happen. I suggest consulting with an attorney to help you down the correct path to handle your fathers in law's estate.
You do not need to open an estate but a Pennsylvania inheritance tax return needs to be filed. If your name was on the account for more than a year only half of the date of date of death value will be taxable. There are however decisions that can be taken before the taxable amount is calculated. The tax rate is 4.5%
You can call the Department of Court Records Orphans Court at 412-350-4186. They may be able to tell you over the phone. If not you can go to the City County Building in town and go to the Register of Wills office to check on the file.
You will need to have a court order stating tht you now have custody of your son. If you currently have a custod order in Missouri then you will have to have it changed there. If you do not currently have a court order one must be preapred and signed off by a judge in Missouri stateing that you have primary custody. Without the court order, the child's father can come and take him back.
It is hard to say when it will be done. In Allegheny County they will not issue a divorce decree until the equitable distribution is completed. Your inventory will be due to the court to mmake the process begin. She will also have to file one before you can get a date before a judge. Its not quite as simple as filing out papers. I suggest that you consult with any attorney to discuss this and get the ball rolling. Please feel free to contact me if you need assistance.
As long as the assets you purchased with the inheritance remained in your own name they are not considered marital property. You should discuss equitable distribution wtih a Family Law attorney. Depending on your other assets both marital and non marital the inheritance you have me be of some negotiating power with regard to other assets you may want to retain.
Laura Cohen, Esq