If you can prove that the house was purchased in anticipation of the marriage, and with joint assets you may be able to have the house declared marital property. It is very important that this be taken into consideration prior to filing any divorce papers with the court.
You cannot be forced into a Legal Separation. You husband would have to serve you and sue you for a divorce or a legal separation. If he has no grounds he could not win. You can get a lawyer to use to Agreement to protect yourself if you entered into the Agreement.
You may file the papers in court for a default. If there are no children the court will allow you to file the judgment of divorce and other default papers and there is no need for an appearance. If there are children and there are family court orders for support and custody you can also file for a default. Otherwise, you may need an attorney.
New York is changing the divorce maintenance formulas during the pendency of a matrimonial action as of October 13th. If you are not employed your husband will be forced to pay you maintenance under the new formula. You should contact an attorney to be advised of all rights.
Yes you can have joint custody and still move to another state and retain joint custody. Where you live does not control. What controls is your interaction with you child. If you do not actively continue to participate in the childs life, the other parent may go to court and seek to have joint custody changed to sole legal custody.
A good criminal attorney can resolve this matter for you without jail time and without having a criminal record. Do not turn yourself in without an attorney. It could adversely affect you criminal case.
If there is a pending criminal or civil action pending then an attorney may subpoena the records of the government official and/or request the court to allow a forensic computer expert to review the hard drive of the computer to determine if any statement was changed.