A recusal motion is something that has to be handled with great care: if you lose, you'll be before the judge you tried to get removed and about whom you presumably said some fairly negative things. You should consult with a local attorney who knows and practices before the judge regularly.
The first thing you should do is tone down the rhetoric. Your child didn't die on the table four times. She may have had complications - but presumably she's still alive. Judges don't like that kind of rhetoric.
You have a lawyer. Talk to him or her about your options.