When you say "enforce" do you mean to try to collect it or to punish him for lack of collection? Either way, there is some information here that is unclear, but I am guessing they aren't enforcing because there is a motion pending. If they aren't willing to collect at all even with the order that's in place, make sure they have the most recent order. Although the process is supposed to work smoothly, it often doesn't.
We do quite a bit of out of state, and even out of country divorces. The problem is, as already identified, obtaining good service. It can be done in most cases, though if the person is evading that can be difficult. However, not impossible. It will just cost a little more money and time to get through the process. You definitely need a lawyer who has done out of state divorces before.
Military divorce is tricky, there's a lot to think about that you may not have considered...and there are no hard, fast rules for alimony...you REALLY need to have your situation reviewed by an attorney. Feel free to call my office for a free half hour consultation where I can get more information and answer your questions more appropriately.
As the others have said, any family/matrimonial lawyer should be able to handle these issues for you. As for reduced rate, there is very little free or reduced rate legal assistance in New Jersey in family matters, and you have to meet very stringent requirements to get it. There are lawyers who will work with you on payment plans for their bill...but most attorneys do require an up front retainer to cover the expense of their time working on your matter. Some things to look for in keeping...
You might be required to pay more. The answer to that question lies in how much unemployment she is getting, if she got any severance from her job, and a host of other individualized questions. The fact that you are paying for the support of another child now might weigh in your favor. However, you may want to consult with an attorney if you feel that you have a lot to lose.
You need an attorney. You also need a doctor who will certify she is capable of understanding enough to sign the power of attorney. You also need to be appointed as her health care representative, which is a separate document.
Also, speaking to an attorney about protecting her assets would be a good idea, if it isn't too late.
There are a lot of questions you leave unanswered here, such as what your current parenting time order is, if any. If you have an order and she is refusing to produce the child, you might have a claim against her to enforce your rights. You definitely should see an attorney before much more time goes by, because the time away from her will work against you in terms of bonding and demonstrating the need to preserve the relationship.
I think this does seem a bit slow to even file the will. It's concerning. Call an attorney who handles estates and consider hiring them to at least send a letter demanding information concerning the will. If he drags his feet too long the estate can really lose a lot of money for late filing of taxes.
I agree with everything said so far, however I also suggest that the beneficiary have their own attorney as some of her interests may be different than that of your father.
But yes, he needs to hire an estates attorney to manage this estate, it is quite complicated and his duty as a fiduciary would require him to do what is needed. The estate should pay for the attorney as well as commissions for your father as executor.
Yes, you can hire an attorney for unbundled legal services. This is something that my office does in some cases, but I think any attorney on here would need more information about the type of motion you are talking about.