You might want to consider requesting that the Judge force the sale of the home. I am not sure why the Judge would have ordered a refinance of a home in foreclosure since there was already an ability to pay and she wont qualify for a refinance. You need to get your name off of the home or you will continue to be responsible to the third parties such as the homeowners association and if you have any ability to pay the mortgage, the mortgage company can still look to you for payment no matter...
Yes, all support orders can be executed against even part time wages in NJ. If the facts have changed since the entry of the order you can modify the Order by Consent or apply to the Court to change it.
Any change to a Court order of parenting time is supposed to be in writing signed by both parties. The exisitance of email usually suffices in Court to support a change, but your Husband should go to Court to formally change the agreement so she doesnt try to call the police to enforce the existing order which they will do. The police wont review the email.
It depends on how much the premarital equity is, how long ago it was sold among other factors. A court would probably consider the proceeds tp have been commingled and not deem it to be an exempt asset.