You cannot force her to have an abortion, and if the child is yours, you will be "stuck" with raising the child, which would include child support in the event of a divorce or separation. But look at the bright side, you'll also be "stuck" with the love and joy that this child will undoubtedly bring you. Probably not a bad trade-off. Since the child is now likely inevitable, follow the solid advice of John Candy's character Del in the movie Planes, Trains, and Automobiles, "go with the flow,...
Yes. If you waived any claims you had against the attorney (are you sure it doesn't say counsel FEES), that would only be the right to sue him. Filing an ethics grievance is different. An agreement not to file an ethics grievance would not be enforceable.
Based on the facts you provided, he is almost certain to obtain parenting time. He seems to be changing his ways, and the court will always attempt to assure that the children have both parents in their lives. That isn't to say that there are issues, and hopefully you have a good lawyer. Good luck.
Sounds like something is being lost in the translation. What does "come back to court if i got permanent alimony he will grant permanent alimony" mean? You really need to consult a divorce attorney, ASAP.
If acquired during the marriage, the home is a marital asset subject to equitable distribution regardless of title. But having it in joint names is preferred for many reasons, including the fact that he could sell it without your knowledge.
The actions impacting the child cannot support a DV order unless she can prove he did these things with the intent to harass your sister, an unlikely outcome. A DV victim must be 18 years of age. There remains a "Roberts hearing" which is what litigants availed themselves of prior to the DV statute, but that is also unlikely. Her best bet is to simply seek an order requiring his removal couched in terms of the best interest of the children.
Your question is fact-sensitive, but you are entitled to share in any assets acquired during the marriage. Alimony is a tough one after a 12 year separation. I think you'll have a tough time getting alimony.