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Posted by attorney Anna Matula-Evans

Let's face it... a DIVORCE can be very traumatic. This is especially the case when one spouse does not want the marriage to come to an end. I have been known to say, "it takes two people to get married, but only one to get out." This is the unfortunate reality that the spouse who doesn't really want to end the marriage must come to terms with.

Once both people understand that DIVORCE is inevitable, how can they make the process as peaceful as possible?


Some of the Key Benefits to Collaborative Divorce vs. Traditional Divorce are as follows:

  1. THE TEAM APPROACH is often less expensive than a traditional litigated divorce. The neutral professionals used in the team approach work together toward a common goal. This approach can help preserve financial resources during a time when it is most important because now two households will have survive on the same income stream that used to support just one household.

  2. Both parties have THE BENEFIT OF AN ATTORNEY by their side. This is the key difference between Mediation and Collaborative Divorce.

  3. A PARENTING PLAN to take you into the future once the divorce has been finalized. Parents going through a divorce will usually want to do everything possible to minimize the impact of the divorce on the children's emotional health and stability. A collaborative divorce may be the most effective way to help protect your children from the upsets of a traditional divorce. The collaborative approach to divorce will also foster the capability for you and your former spouse to maintain a cooperative and respectful relationship in the years following your divorce. By working together in a non-adversarial arrangement, you can establish a parenting plan that benefits your children and allows you to continue to play a large role in their lives.

  4. LESS ANXIETY because you never have to see the inside of the courthouse. The process is geared entirely toward keeping the parties out of court.

  5. MAINTAIN CONTROL of the outcome. In the Collaborative Divorce process, the parties maintain control of the outcome of the case rather than placing the outcome in the hands of Judge. By engaging in the Collaborative process the parties avoid the often uncertain outcomes of court proceedings.

Divorce attorneys who practice Collaborative Divorce are routinely trained in the specifics of collaborative practice. Many attorneys continue to train in the collaborative process for their entire career.

Collaborative Divorce makes sense, it is the path of least resistance, it is a way to achieve A DIVORCE WITH DIGNITY.

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