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DO NOT Go To Court If You Really Want JusticeTelevision shows are full of medical and legal dramas. And some of the medical dramas people do die. However, in the legal ones, the good guys pretty much always get sent to prison.
Since most of us are lucky enough never to expect to go to prison, we don't realize that the two most likely places we will counter record is if we drive drunk-- or we get divorced. And large number of marriages do you end up in divorce. The numbers fluctuate by age and by whether or not it's the first or subsequent marriage, but there is a 50% number out there that is not far off. I wrote a decade ago that there really isn't a single family left anymore in the country which is it touched by divorce in one way or another.
And there is a recurring problem with these cases. Problem really has two parts. The basic problem is at least one party there's always unhappy after they got a judge in on the mix. The other problem is that we tend to think things are just if we like them and we don't realize that justice can only be real if both parties are satisfied with the outcome. America is a country was likes to have winners and losers. You may notice but that's being stated quite loudly by our current leaders.
There is a innate problem with this and that is that there's a winner and a loser, you've got a 50% chance of being the loser. Some people, by the nature of their personal views or their situation, have much higher odds.
What I'm really saying here is don't go to court for your family if you want justice. Yes, I realize some spouses are willing to sit down and talk but you do need to be aware that you're not going to get justice no matter what.
Another point that most people don't give a lot of thought to before they run to the courthouse and file is that they are expecting this elusive thing called justice. It's just not in the front of their minds. I read a lot of posts and answer a lot of posts here on auto and I assure you that there are multiple times where people insist but the outcome of their case wasn't just. I agree. It probably wasn't a pr another point that most people don't give a lot of thought to before they run the courthouse and file is that they are expecting this elusive thing called justice. It's just not in the front of their minds. I read a lot of posts and answer a lot of posts here on all mow and I assure you that there are multiple times where people insist but the outcome of their case wasn't just. I agree. It probably wasn't. As I just wrote today to someone about a small claims court case courts do not dispense justice. They find facts and law and make a judgment based on them. You'll notice the word just disappears nowhere in that sentence.
Why am I telling you all this? All this good stuff that you didn't want to hear? I'm telling you so you have the opportunity to be aware of what you're going to find when you enter the courthouse. If you don't want to know what you certainly can choose that option. But I can guarantee you will be frustrated and or angry. People have been driven to violence by court cases and it's in the papers on a regular basis.
So if you'd like to lower your frustration level, adjust your expectations!
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