Hudson County Child Custody Lawyer Top Tips For Increased Parenting Time and Shared Custody
This guide is about residential custody with a focus on increased parenting time and tips on how to obtain more parenting time, how to present a father's rights case in a child custody, parenting time situation in Hudson County, Essex County and beyond.
Case Goal- Shared Parenting Plans and The Most Likely Way to Achieve Your GoalMany people come into my office asking how they can have more parenting time with their children, if husband and wife are still living together-should one parent leave during the pendency of the divorce, so on and so forth. 1. It is never to early to plan. What I mean is, if you are married and live together, start planning where you will live if you do not keep the house. Think about how close you can live to the children so that it is easy to see them frequently, attend their activities, go to the parent teacher events, etc. If you are not living together, try to situate yourself close to the custodial parent's home for the same reasons I just mentioned.
Your Kids Want to See You- Be ConsistentWhile you may be at odds with your spouse or the other parent in the relationship, you have to set pride aside and focus on the needs of the kids. Neither you or the other parent are perfect nor do you know it all, nobody is perfect and nobody knows it all. The key is to be willing to compromise for the sake of the kids. By doing so, a shared parenting arrangement can succeed, without it, it will fail. Furthermore, be consistent with your kids. When you are expected to be there for them, be there. When you have a chance to spend extra time with them, try to. I can assure you of one thing, if your kids are upset, anxious, stressed, depressed, you will be too.
Consistency Means More Than Having the Same Toothpaste In Two Different HomesI have seen it all in family court. I have seen someone that was not involved in the child's life claim to offer consistency because he had the same toothpaste in his home as the mother did in her home. While I still do not know if this statement was part lunacy or part entertainment, consistency means that the child will go to bed around the same time each night, will eat similar foods (healthy vs. fast food), will follow certain rules about television shows/movies that are acceptable/not acceptable, what time they will eat, etc. Again, all of these issues will not be addressed by the court, these are issues that the parents must address or can use the service of an independent lawyer or other independent professional.
Will the Children Have Their Own Space in Your Home?One question a Judge may ask is if the children will have their own space in the home? Or if not, where will they sleep? Where will they play? While the requirement varies drastically from county to county as space in Hudson County is more valuable and dense than it is in Warren or Somerset County. This is relevant because if they limited overnights or extended parenting time to people who had a certain number of bedrooms, many people in Hudson, Essex and Union County would be harmed by such a requirement because of the higher cost of living. For more information about the Artusa Law Firm's work in father's rights cases and recent successes, visit: http://www.prweb.com/releases/2016/06/prweb13510081.htm or https://topjerseycitydivorcelawyers.com/2016/06/21/fathers-rights-lawyer-hudson-county/