Surviving Custody Mediation
This guide provides information on approaching mediation so that you present your side as clearly and effectively as possible.
What to ExpectMediation is informal, unlike court, but everything about you needs to reflect that you are serious and concerned about getting the best possible result for your children. The mediator may ask each of you to describe your feelings and ambitions, and also ask questions to find out how much insight you have about the other party's feelings and ambitions. Usually, children have a limited role, but the mediator will want to talk to children over the age of 5 years or so.
How to Approach the MeetingMediators are looking for solutions and are not equipped to determine fault or blame. The worst thing you can do is to describe all the things that are wrong with the other party, or all the bad things they have done, because that will make the mediator think you ate more concerned about beating up someone instead of protecting your children.