Pit Bulls and Poodles
There are practical aspects to consider when choosing a lawyer. Whether you want an aggressive, pragmatic or amiable lawyer, just don't approach a family law matter without one if you have any kind of estate to divide or children involved.
Tips for Choosing a lawyerThe prospect of a divorce is always a deeply saddening contemplation. It is the death of a life once shared. Even when you are the spouse who is seeking the termination of the marriage it is often after you’ve tried everything you could to sustain it, but the efforts were still unsuccessful. Once you’ve come to the realization that something has to change the next thing you should do is seek legal counsel. You see marriage is a contract and like any other contract there are legal entanglements and wherever there are legally binding commitments you should have counsel. When searching for a lawyer to handle a situation as sensitive as your family ties you should find one whom you trust, who has similar characteristics to you and who shares your philosophy on how to pursue your divorce. You should come to your consultation with prepared questions. This will help you to focus if you’re feeling a rush of emotions.
To determine trust, for instance ask about their practice regarding sharing information about the progress of your case, educating you about the process and what to expect, providing you with access to filings and correspondence. Ask about response times and methods, do they communicate by email, phone, text, or all three. Ask about support staff, who will help you? Can I call them directly? How often can I expect to hear from them or you? If you don’t respond in the time you usually say you will are you bothered by me nudging you for a response. The responses to these kinds of questions can give you an indication of whether the firm is a good fit.
To determine similar characteristics, interview them as you would a dating partner. Now this may sound strange at first because you might expect there to be an arms length relationship between you and your counsel. You, however, are about to trust this person with the most precious of your valuables, be it your children, your resources or your own person, you should know who you’re trusting. While it’s important to know if they have a background in family law, if they are in good standing with the bar, if they have done anything to set themselves apart like being board certified in family law, but you want to know more. You want to know if they have children, are they married or divorced, what are their hobbies outside of the practice of law, are they religious, do they value family over wealth or vice versa, how much can I expect to spend? There are no right or wrong answers to these questions, there are just commonalities that you should seek because it makes the process easier and lowers the risk of having to change lawyers in the middle of the case.
Determining a shared philosophy is critical for the success of your lawyer client relationship. Do you want the “pit bull”? Do you want the “amiable”? Do you want the “pragmatic “? These are just a few examples but these descriptions give you an insight into how they will pursue your case and their general philosophy on the practice of marriage dissolution. While it may seem difficult to discern who you lawyer really is, because like in pursuing a dating partner you first meet their representative self before you meet their real self, don’t be afraid to share who you really are and what you expect. Lawyers want to represent you so they may say what you want to hear but listen for your match and tell them what you need to get you through this process. You can’t turn a poodle into a pit bull. So if you want a pit bull don’t hire the poodle just because that’s the first person you interviewed. Hire who suits your personality!
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Choosing The Bastine Law GroupAt the Bastine Law Group we believe in securing the best possible outcome for our clients. We enjoy corresponding with them through email, phone and text communication. We are always happy to see our clients face to face with an appointment, drop ins are not recommended. We have a team approach to the representation of our clients, we have multiple lawyers of varying degrees of experience and differing perspectives. We at the firm employ a style of measured aggression, we won’t start the fight but we won’t run from it! We are certain with all the advocacy we offer we are capable of handling your very sensitive matter and we are the best choice to fit your needs. When you need a firm to handle your family matter call The Bastine Law Group, the Family Law Firm that cares about Family!