Take a deep breath. Then take another. You can do this.
Call a friend.
First you need to share this with someone you trust. Then develop a support system of friends and advisors. You need a team right now. Let your immediate supervisor at work know but keep information sharing at the office to a bare minimum.
The loss of a marriage is brutal whether or not it was troubled. Let yourself work through the process. There*s no shortcut to grief.
Get a good counselor
Therapy is not a sign of weakness. Courts hold parties who get help in high esteem. It*s not easy to work through this but decision-making will be clearer and more rational with support from a skilled third party.
Shelter the kids.
They*ll see you are in distress but never share the gory details. It helps no one. Reassure them that everything will be okay in time. Help them develop coping skills by example.
Find a good family law attorney
One with a knowledge of the law, empathy and good communication skills. Ask a friend or colleague for a referral. Then call.
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