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Getting a Divorce, Marriage and Your Weight

Posted by attorney Charles Hofheimer

Every milestone in life brings with it significant changes. If you're getting a divorce, it can affect some unexpected areas of your life, like your weight and overall health. Having a Virginia Beach divorce attorney on your side can help reduce some of the stress and enable you to focus on taking care of your needs during this difficult time.

Maintaining a healthy body weight is a common struggle for many women, and the social repercussions of weight changes are an undeniable fact in our culture. As a result, the weight changes that follow marriage or getting a divorce often hold a lot of emotional significance.

According to research, women tend to gain weight following marriage, while men are more likely to pack on the pounds after they get divorced. Why does this happen? Researchers suggest it has to do with both lifestyle changes and reactions to emotions.

A Virginia Beach divorce attorney can be a positive influence on your life while getting a divorce, as they will take on some of the stressful burden you will be saddled with.

The Effects of Marriage and Getting a Divorce On Weight

Because of the emphasis on weight as an indicator of beauty in our culture, it's not uncommon for single women to work hard to maintain a low body weight. After marriage, they may feel content and settled, and that they no longer have to put as much work into being thin. It's somewhat of a stereotype that may hold some truth.

Also, married women (particularly once children come along) are more likely to have access to things like treats, desserts, and other tempting tidbits. They can get into a routine where they're eating the same stick-to-your-ribs meals as their husbands and children simply because their busy lifestyle doesn't allow them to prepare separate low-cal meals for themselves.

Men on the other hand, tend to enjoy some health benefits with marriage. Wives are likely to try and encourage healthy behavior in their husbands, so a married man often eats more balanced meals.

He may also get more exercise. In general, men don't tend to work quite as hard as women do to stay in shape prior to marriage, so even if there is weight gain after they settle down it usually isn't as significant and it carries less of a social stigma.

When men are getting a divorce, they're more likely to start eating poorly and “letting themselves go," whereas the effects of divorce on women’s weight is more varied. Stress and grief can lead to weight loss or gain depending on the individual.

Women are also more likely to suffer money troubles following the end of their marriage, which can lead to less healthy food choices, weight gain, and overall poor health.

The consequences of money troubles and their effects on overall health is just one more reason why it’s important to know your rights and have a Virginia Beach divorce attorney on your side to fight for:

  • fair division of property;
  • spousal support; and
  • other factors that can help stabilize your financial position.

There's a variety of reasons why people gain, lose or maintain weight following a relationship event, and people respond to stress, happiness and other emotions in different ways. Weight is by far not the only indicator of health or happiness; there are many factors involved in how good a person feels physically or mentally following a marriage or divorce.

Contacting a Virginia Beach Divorce Attorney

Throughout your divorce proceedings, you’ll naturally have a lot of questions specific to your circumstances. Get your questions answered by requesting one of our FREE divorce guides for women, or reserving your seat at our monthly divorce seminar –.

The Virginia Beach divorce attorneys at Hofheimer/Ferrebee are committed to fighting for your rights, assisting in child custody disputes, and advocating that you receive everything you are entitled to and need in order to start your new life. – 757-425-5200.

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