Divorce Suicide-How to Lose It All (Part 1)
An ongoing series about the WORST things to do during your Divorce
How Long Should I Wait to Begin My Divorce?Scenario: You and your spouse own a house that you bought together during your marriage. Your spouse moves out and abandons you 1 year later. You continue to live in the house and make all the payments. Five years later your spouse files for divorce. During that 5 years your house value increased by $40,000.00. Your spouse wants 50% of the latest value.
Answer: Why didn't you file for divorce during those 5 years? What stopped you? Even if the court finds that the spouse that abandoned you is at fault for the breakup of the marriage, the house will be valued at the time of divorce and not the time of separation.
How Will an Affair Affect My Marriage? I Hear that Judges Don't Consider Adultery to Be a Big Deal ADo you really want to find out if that is true in a courtroom? I'm not a moralist and strive to be non-judgmental, so I've stumbled upon a solution for those that have lost their moral compass: Since you probably can't discuss this with your spouse, sit down and try to sell your idea to your child. Doesn't matter if the child is 2, 7, or 13. I'll bet you get some valuable feedback.
Do You Have a "Plan B?"What the heck is a plan B? Its a strategy that gives you a place to live if your locks are changed. Its a blueprint that you have mapped out before you're in a marital crisis. Imagine the insanity of finding an apartment with a couple of kids in tow. Do you have a security deposit ready if needed? Have you chosen, interviewed and hired a lawyer? Can you imagine the insanity of putting your Plan B into action when you don't have one and when your bank account has been raided, your kids taken, and its 1AM....on a Saturday? Step out of chaos and insanity. Deal from a position of strength, not desperation.
During Litigation Everything is MagnifiedRemember that beer you had every night when you got home, took your shoes off, and put your feet up to watch TV? Bam. Now you're painted as an alcoholic. Remember that hit you took off a joint 3 months ago at your cousin's wedding? Bam. Now you're painted as a drug addict. Surf porn? Uh-oh. The point is divorce litigation is an extreme sport. Don't commit Divorce Suicide.