Plan early and plan well.
Divorce Mistakes Before the WeddingBW1. Not having realistic expectations before the wedding. If you can’t become an equal partner and always do your share of work, communicating and being thoughtful then perhaps you should go back home and let your parents raise you some more. - - - - BW2. Not considering the advantages of a prenuptial agreement and getting one signed especially if your net worth far exceeds your partner’s or you have separate children to protect. - - - - BW3. Allowing a family lawyer inexperienced in writing prenuptial agreements to write your agreement. There are specific and detailed standards to follow or the prenupt can easily be ineffective. Hire only a family lawyer and only one that is experienced in such agreements (preferably a family lawyer that has had her agreements hold up during a divorce). - - - - BW4. Failing to properly budget before and during the wedding. There are good debts (commercial real estate, businesses) and bad debts (material items, personal extravagances). Going into debt for a wedding may easily be a bad debt in more ways than one. - - - - BW5. Mentally considering marriage a contract instead of an eternal commitment. Performance contracts rarely ever anticipate all possible future situations and events and therefore often leave one or both parties dissatisfied. A mutual and unselfish commitment to work together as a lifetime team is much more likely to last. It is amazing how much satisfaction, love, happiness and accomplishment can come from a 50 or 60 year marriage. It is not surprising that 50 or 60 years of being single can cause a person to be unhappy, unfulfilled and unsatisfied in life.
Divorce Mistakes During the MarriageDM1. Not having realistic expectations during the marriage. Living has a lot of overhead and mindless duties to share equally. A divorce is supposed to divide up the assets fairly and equally. A good marriage divides up the responsibilities, chores and duties and then a divorce should not become attractive or seemingly necessary. Did or do you and your spouse both take marital responsibilities seriously? Did you both try to be a good spouse, parent, provider, mate, citizen, neighbor or did one or both of you marry a “child”? - - - - DM2. Allowing your separate property to become commingled or titling separate property in both spouses' names. - - - - DM3. Failing to properly budget. There are good debts (commercial real estate, businesses) and bad debts (material items, personal extravagances). Going into debt to try to gain lifestyle will be disastrous and lead to many marriage problems which often lead to divorce.