Coparenting tips for the holidays
All of the days you miss with your children test the relationship and communication you have with the other parent. It is important to maintain a good relationship with your children and ex-spouse in order to facilitate time sharing and co-parenting, while still keeping the family spirit positive.
Communicate, communicate, communicateA great way to communicate regularly is to find the preferred method of communication. Choose whether emails, text messages, scheduled FaceTime, in-person conversations or phone calls work best for both parents. Also, choose a regular day of the week or time that updates may be best for school updates, extracurricular activities, social events or otherwise, so both parents are involved at all times. Children want to feel that both their parents are involved and care to be part of their life, during holidays and year-round. If communication is impossible, try using one of the online programs such as Our Family Wizard or Talking Parents. These programs keep a record of all communications. There is no deleting of messages, which helps keep communication respectful and focused on the tasks at hand.
Plan, plan, planPlan ahead with the other parent about holiday plans and/or related activities, trips, parties and schedules. Check that your parenting plan accounts for this holiday. If not, emphasize flexibility so that plans can accommodate for time with both parents. Don't put your children in the predicament of having to choose between one parent or the other, or eating two Thanksgiving dinners. All holidays should be as stress-free as possible so your children can focus on the fun.
Share, share, shareDo your best to consistently share news, details, photos and much more with your co-parent. Although a divorce ends a spousal relationship, it does not end your relationship as parents and as a family. Find the best way to keep everyone connected and in touch with one another on a regular basis. Share those Halloween and Christmas photos and cherish the moments that will pass and never return.