Written by attorney Scott Frederick Levin

Child Custody Advice - Judges Don't Love Your Children Like You Do

I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine named Mark Hill who is in the financial industry and a very well known financial divorce expert. He recounted a story about a Judge who had asked a husband and wife if they love their children. They both said yes. Then the Judge said he didn't love their kids and asked that the two go outside and figure out their custody plan.

I love stories like this because they speak to the importance of amicable mediation during divorce. Fighting in court is not evil by any means and you may think it's necessary, and you may be right. But the vast majority of people who go to court will end up settling outside of court because that's just what happens in the vast majority of cases. No litigator can deny this.

So what's the answer? Well I choose to be a mediator even though I am a licensed attorney and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. I help people navigate divorce outside of court by enabling fair and open communication and negotiation. Although mediation is certainly the affordable option for divorce, there is no measuring the emotional harm we save our clients from by avoiding prolonged fighting in court.

San Diego Divorce Mediation can be reached at 858-255-1321 and at

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