If you are a blended family member, then you are in good company. Even if you are not a blended family member, the chances are quite good that you know someone who is. Blended families now outnumber traditional families – and the number is likely to grow, based on current divorce statistics and trends. The Numbers. Divorce is rather common in America. In fact, an estimated 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce after an average of 11 years. The average divorce will cost the parties approximately $15,000 and take about one year to process from initial filing to final decree. [Note: These average costs and processing times vary greatly from jurisdiction to juris-diction.]
Thereafter, the resulting economic fallout of divorce will tend to reduce the standard of living of both ex-spouses. Not surprisingly, divorce is not only expensive, but researchers consistently rank it as one of the most stressful of life experiences. Dollars and cents aside, the impact of divorce on children is more difficult to measure. Each year some 1 million American children experience divorce firsthand. However, a substantial number of these children will not be in single parent homes for long. Why? When divorcing under the age of 45, 80 percent of divorced men and 75 percent of divorced women remarry within three to four years. And divorced adults with children tend to remarry quicker than divorced adults without children.
Statistically, half of all children born since 1970 will live in a blended family arrangement. Tragically, over 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce. While there are numerous organizations and support groups dedicated to helping blended families overcome their inherent economic, social and psychological challenges, little attention has been paid to the critical Life & Estate Planning challenges encountered by blended families. These critical challenges include disinheriting your ex-spouse, protecting your own children, providing for your new spouse and minimizing your estate taxes. Your Ex-Spouse. Will your ex-spouse control or even inherit your assets upon your death?
Without proper Life & Estate Planning, the answer may be yes. For example, without proper legal planning, your ex-spouse (as surviving parent/guardian) likely would be appointed by the probate court to manage any inheritance you leave to your minor children. To make matters worse, if your children later predecease your ex-spouse, then your ex-spouse may inherit your assets. That is right ... your ex-spouse, as the next-of-kin of your children, may inherit your assets from them. Your Own Children. Whether children are reared in traditional nuclear families or in blended families, great care should be given to protect any inheritance both for them and from them. For starters, wealth representing a lifetime of your hard work and thrift can be squandered in very short order.
Dollars earned just spend differently than dollars inherited. In addition to good, old-fashioned squandering, an inheritance can quickly vanish through divorces, lawsuits and bankruptcies. Your New Spouse. Chances are you made a few solemn promises to your new spouse on your wedding day. Among them were promises to be there through thick and thin, personally and financially. In the absence of a Pre- or Post-Marital Agreement to distinguish and maintain their respective separate assets, many spouses in blended families tend to blend their separate assets over time. New purchases are commonly titled in both names and the spouses also may designate one another as the primary beneficiary of their respective retirement plans and life insurance policies. Warning: If you predecease your new spouse, then you may forever disinherit your own children from your share of such blended wealth! Thereafter, upon the death of your new spouse, your assets may be inherited by your stepchildren, or even by your new spouse’s next spouse and their children. Your Estate Taxes.
Aside from disinheriting your own children, blending your wealth with your new spouse may unnecessarily enrich the IRS. How? The Internal Revenue Code provides an exemption to each taxpayer for purposes of sheltering a certain dollar value of their estate from estate taxes (with marginal rates exceeding 40 percent). However, this is a use it or lose it exemption. You may partially or completely lose the benefit of this valuable exemption when the title to your separate and blended assets passes to your new spouse upon your death. This mistake alone could trigger hundreds of thousands of dollars in wholly unnecessary estate taxes. Alternative Solutions. If you want to disinherit your ex-spouse, protect your own children, provide for your new spouse and minimize your estate taxes, then you need to make proper Life & Estate Plans now. While there is no one-size-fits-all solution, there are a few alternative solutions you might want to consider.
To disinherit your ex-spouse, consider establishing Long-Term Discretionary Trust (LTD Trust) planning under your Last Will and Testament or Revocable Living Trust to administer the inheritance for your children, appointing a party of your own selection to serve as trustee. That way, even if your children reside with your ex-spouse, your trustee will control the inheritance and ensure its use only for your children. Moreover, should your children predecease your ex-spouse, the inheritance would remain in your LTD Trust for your grandchildren or for other beneficiaries of your own selection. To protect your own children, your LTD Trust does double duty by securing many additional tax and non-tax benefits. For example, through Spendthrift Provisions, the inheritance also may be protected from squandering, divorces, lawsuits and bankruptcies.
To protect your new spouse, create a Qualified Terminable Interest Property Trust (QTIP Trust) to provide income and even principal for the lifetime of your new spouse. Such arrangements will protect the inheritance for your new spouse in the event of subsequent remarriage and divorce. Thereafter, upon the death of your new spouse, the QTIP Trust assets may pass to the LTD Trust you established for your own children upon your death. As an added bonus, especially if the estate value of your new spouse is less than the estate tax exemption amount and yours exceeds it, the QTIP Trust assets will be added to the estate of your new spouse to maximize both of your estate tax exemptions. Otherwise, the exemption available to your new spouse may be wasted while your estate is subjected to unnecessary estate taxation. To minimize your estate taxes, create an Estate Tax Exemption Trust (ETE Trust) to shelter the maximum available exemption upon your death. Use of the ETE will help ensure that you do not waste your use it or lose it estate tax exemption. Often used in conjunction with the QTIP Trust for your new spouse, the ETE Trust can help you disinherit the IRS and leave more wealth for your loved ones.