"Check rather than hurt. Hurt rather than maim. Maim rather than kill."
Fighting in court and everywhere else is about fighting to harmonize imbalanced situations, rather than to draw proverbial blood merely to draw blood.
Lesson from Master KanBy Jon Katz, a criminal defense lawyer and DWI/ DUI/ Drunk Driving lawyer advocating in Fairfax County, Virginia, Montgomery County, Maryland, and beyond for the best possible results for his clients. http://katzjustice.com Three years ago, I blogged that when fighting for clients, I focus on harmonizing a conflicting situation rather than on inflicting damage on the other side; and remain ready, when unavoidable, to inflict even profound damage on the opposing side if that is the only way to reach harmony for my client, so long as I adhere to all personal and professional ethics during the fight. In that regard, none other than television's Kung Fu imparted this lesson, through Master Kan: "Perceive the way of nature and no force of man can harm you. Do not meet a wave head on: avoid it. You do not have to stop force: it is easier to redirect it. Learn more ways to preserve rather than destroy. Avoid rather than check. Check rather than hurt. Hurt rather than maim. Maim rather than kill. For all life is precious nor can any be replaced." (Emphasis added.)
Some similar thoughts come from taijiquan master Benjamin Lo.As I inform my clients, our court cases are not about us against our opponents, but are about persuading the judge and jury. In that regard, t'ai chi master extraordinaire Benjamin Pang Jeng Lo (pictured here, second from the top) once said: "Normally we think that if [our opponent] has 100 pounds of force or power, I better have 150. But then if I get 150 pounds of force, he may have accumulated more himself. Or there'll be somebody else with more. So next time it will be my 150 against his 200. Then I'll need to go to 250... and still, there's always going to be somebody with more than me. So I need to reverse my approach. I need to take my own power down to 0. Then there's no chasing or spiraling. Nothing can change. If he has 100, I have 0. If he has 150, I have 0. If he has 200, I still have 0, on and on, whatever he has, I'm always beneath it, it doesn't change or affect me. I'm not chasing his attributes, or competing, or catching up, or exceeding him. That's Taijiquan." In other words, t'ai chi and trials should be about harmonizing our situation, rather than focusing on winning. If winning is needed for us to harmonize our situation, so be it. If unavoidable harm to our opponent is needed to harmonize our situation, so be it again. If harmonization is possible without any loser and without harm to anyone, all the better.