My "husband" and I would like to get a divorce but before he goes through with this he keeps sending me threatening text about how he's going to make sure he messes me up with the i.r.s and make sure that I will not be able to apply for public help if he messes me up financially. He claims also in these text that he wants me to suffer to the point that I kill myself. All that I continue to ask from him is to leave in peace with a divorce and to take care of our 6 year old.
Sadly this bullying is very typical. During the marriage he bullied you and tried to convince you that he had all the power and that you could do nothing. This behavior persists in divorce where he tries to convince you that he holds all the power in the divorce. Don't fall for it. Keep the texts and go to the Family Court over on Jamaica and 151st. File a petition for an order of protection using the text messages as proof of the conduct. You can do this on your own, but you may want to consider hiring an attorney. You also need to start the divorce ASAP. I would also advise joining a support group for abused women. You'd be surprised how similar your story is to others. Stay strong and push forward.
The best thing you can do for yourself, is to speak to an attorney who can help you and give you advice and some sort of clarity as to what you are looking at in the divorce process. It sounds like he is trying to intimidate you and take advantage of you. Just speak to an attorney, and you'll know what your rights are.
Make sure you determine what rights you have before agreeing to any proposed settlement agreement. There are many factors that have to be considered regarding finances and your child. It might be advisable to sit down with an attorney to discuss the possible outcomes.
If you are receiving threatening texts that impair your physical or mental well being, you may want to consider requesting that all communication stop. If that does not work then it might be time to think about obtaining an Order of Protection. Good luck.
I agree with my colleagues. In Queens there used to be lawyers there to answer questions pro bono ( for free) I am not sure if that still exists. There is a help desk. Family Court is generally people friendly. If you decide to get an Order of Protection, you should consider getting one for the child if he has made any threats about the child.
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