Is it a bad idea to write a letter to the judge for consideration in setting the child support amount I will have to pay? My ex-wife has ordered a child support wage review & I wondered if it would be a good idea to write a letter to the judge to plead my case? Or would it just irritate the judge as I'm sure they hear a lot of men complain. I had custody of my daughter for the last 5 1/2 years and foolishly agreed to opt out of the friend of the court services so my ex would not have to pay support. Shas talked my daughter into moving with her and is pursuing the max support from me even though I didn't ask for for a dime.The worst is since we opted of the courts, the old court order from '99 has been reinstated without me even getting a choice in the matter.