Ex and I separated.All appeared amicable. We each came up with preliminary agreements and met to discuss and again all seemed fine. I was unemployed and couch hopping. She offered to pay the fees to have the papers drawn up once we came up w/ a final agreement to have an atty review. A few week s after our last meet, I got email that included this: 'I got the papers going for us for the dissolution to begin, but I don't know where you are staying so I don't know how to get them to you. Can you let me know where to send them or maybe can you swing by XXX address?' I opted to just swing by the place - it was close to where I was staying. I was shocked to find dissolution papers AND a DVRO together, already filed w/ court. I left after finding she fell for someone else and it seemed mutual.
Stop worrying about service of process and pay attention to the merits of the case. Consult with an experienced family law attorney immediately.
Did someone serve you/hand you the papers when you got there? I also wouldn't avoid responding and play games. get to a family law atty asap.
Yes, more than likely that is valid service. As long as an adult that was not a party to the lawsuit handed you the papers, that is valid service. It does not matter that she/they tricked you into showing up and picking up the papers.
Since she is seeking a restraining order, which can severely impact your life and freedom, you need to get an attorney to help you with this asap. Don't try to defend this on your own. You have too much at risk.
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