Im getting a divorce but she nor i haven't filed yet but i have an old high school sweetheart that is willing to pay my plane ticket to go see her and some friends but if my soon to be x finds out can this hurt me ? Or how will this affect me
Can a halfway decent divorce lawyer make this look worse than it is? Of course.
You know that, just by asking the question.
Get a lawyer and remember EVERYTHING you do on or offline is to be used against you!
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This could make you look bad, but it isn't clear what other effects you are worried about.
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There are many potential issues that this raises. For example, who will be paying for your food, lodging and other expenses on this trip? Your wife's attorney could argue that by spending this money, you are wasting the marital funds on a girlfriend. Also, your wife's attorney point out to the court that you took this trip (spending time and money) in an attempt to make you look less credible or less in need of financial support. Your best bet is to talk to an experienced attorney about how this trip fits into your case as a whole.
Probably best to wait until you are divorced or at least legally separated with some temporary orders in place governing finances. If you have kids, then it becomes an entirely different issue. Talk to an attorney. Bottom line, you've suffered through this marriage for however long; you can wait just a little longer to see that old friend so you don't compromise your position in the divorce case.
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