I was in a domestic violent relationship. I got pregnant and the person manipulated me to marrying them. I left. We are not divorced yet and they are threatening to take the baby from me. They do not have stable living nor a job. Their father is a child molester and lives in the home. They have roaches and their trailer is falling apart. There is not heat. No air. And there is black mold everywhere. I can more than provide for the baby. And I have a safe clean home. Also my ex has tried to commit suicide several times and just got out of the hospital a couple of weeks ago for trying to commit suicide. The ex also lives in a different state than the baby will be born in.
Not likely. The best interests f the child will be controlling. So you need to just show you have a safe and clean place for the baby, and prove all you said here. You may also want to seek a protective order if you are still being threatened.
Technically if an order regarding child custody is not in place, then if you leave the child with a third party like a babysitter or some relatives, the father could get the child because his parental rights trump theirs and there is no order in place.
From the facts, it seems like you have a very strong case for getting primary custody. I would recommend meeting with an attorney to help you through the legal process. The attorney can help you strategize on the best ways to prove to the court the allegations you have made here in your facts against the father. In the end the judge will be considering the best interest of the child.
Also, if there are any future issues of domestic violence, I would highly recommend getting a Domestic Violence Protective Order.
Best of luck to you.
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