My husband abandoned my son and I for the billionth time, 4 days before Christmas. We lost our home. He took both vehicles. Left us with nothing. he has been extremely emotionally abusive to the point where I was losing all self worth and ability to see mywn truth through his gas lighting. I have evidence of him putting his hands on me (he never hit me as he loves to point out) but Ive had many bruises from pushing, grabbing, face grabbing, etc. I also have evidence of property damages to our previous home which led to a bill for replacement costs. Because I made a vow to honor my marriage and honor God, I tried everything. I do love him. He is amazingly charming to the point that he has other people who dont knw me personally, but in church etc... supporting him as if he is the victim and I am crazy. Last time he left my 6 yr old started pooping himself. He has been his step daddy since he was 3, and so it hurts him greatly when he leaves as he will pretend he doesnt have a wife or stepson. He is a sex offender and one of his children went through foster care before being adopted. His other daughter he hasnt seen in 12 yrs. But he is so confidant when threatening me about court!!
There are several things that will help with these difficult facts. The first is for you to get into some counseling to build yourself back up. When you read what you wrote, you know his threats are just that. However, you are still intimidated by him. You need to be strong to get yourself and your children through this. Second, you need to file and get orders in place. There are no orders right now, and his intimidation is getting the better of you. With the facts that you state, you have good arguments to support your position. It is difficult to get "full" custody, in that at a minimum a parent usually gets supervised time. However, facts are what lead the court to make its decisions in the best interests of the child. Good luck to you.
More information is needed before any of us can provide you legal advice. Before you will get any Court Orders regarding allocation of parental responsibilities (parenting time, decision making authority, and child support) you will need to file a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage, which is the official pleading asking the Court to grant you a divorce. Once the Petition is filed, that will prevent your Husband from further concealing, encumbering, or disposing of any marital assets pursuant to the Court's automatic temporary injunctions, which go into effect upon filing. From the limited information provided in your posting, it appears you will need a strong advocate to assist you in this matter. Fortunately, many family law attorneys now offer free initial consultations. I suggest you meet with a family law lawyer in your area to discuss the specifics of your circumstances so you may make an informed decision on how to proceed. Best of luck to you and your children during these difficult times.
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