You might be able to draw both a Social Security benefit off of your deceased husband and your own teacher's retirement benefit, but not now.
There are three circumstances in which a widow can draw a Social Security benefit off a deceased spouse's work record:
1) If she's over 60 years old,
2) If she's over 50 years old, and became disabled within 7 years of her husband's death,
3) If she's caring for the deceased's child under age 16, or disabled child.
It is possible that caring for your disabled daughter, even though she's no longer a "child," would satisfy option 3, IF she's found disabled by Social Security. Assuming her disability began before she reached age 22, she could be found entitled to what are known as "child's benefits" with Social Security, and would receive a benefit of her own, from your husband's work record, independent of the benefits you might be eligible for. If she is found disabled by SSA, then it should be a fairly simple matter to get you approved for "mother's benefits."
This is pretty complicated stuff, so I'd advise you to speak to a Social Security attorney in your area about it. There are a lot of details and extra requirements that I haven't mentioned, but these are the broad strokes. Good luck to you both.
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I suggest you call your local SS office for advice.
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