my fiancé and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. we plan to be married in 3 months, after six months of marriage, we are taking my ex boyfriend to court to terminate his parental rights. he is sitting in prison for 2 years for, disturbing heroin outside of his home, criminal trespassing and identity theft, 12 felonies n his record, as well as a charge on his juvenile for molesting his sister when he was 14. he has not contributed one thing to my daughter and has not seen her since she was 11 months old, she is now 3. nor any communication or interest. he has no stable home life, nor any support except from his father who has a record as well and is very violent (beat my ex with a baseball bat 8 months ago.) it was all over the news. I have a 3 year PFA against him for physical and mental abuse, as well as a police report stating he hit me while 2 months pregnant over me not allowing him to smoke in my car. My fiancé loves my daughter and she calls him daddy. Hes all shes ever known. My fiancé was convicted of 2 duis, 3 years ago. He completed everything, as well as paid all fines. We live at my parents 5 bedroom 3 bath farm house saving money for our own home.
Well everything is about the best interests of the child. If he has shown that he has beaten his drinking problem then that should be ok. Sounds like a farm house is a great place to raise children.
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I'm wondering why you're going to wait six months to file for the adoption after you're married. If you and your fiance have been together for several years, it may be appropriate to commence the proceedings earlier. I suggest that you discuss the possibility of filing sooner, as well as what impact your fiance's DUIs might have on an adoption, with a local attorney experienced in adoption. I [personally don't see the DUIs as being a big impediment but I don't practice in Allegheny County. An attorney there would know better what your judges look for. Best wishes to you for a long marriage and happy family!
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I agree with counsel that you are not required to wait six months after being married. It would be a good idea to have ready what treatment your fiancé has done to address the DUI's. You should consult with an attorney who does this work to discuss the different sections of the Termination Statute you could be eligible to file under and discuss timing of doing so.
I think it is good that you are thinking about the impact of the DUIs, especially since there were 2 in a short period of time and they are in the recent past. I am currently dealing with a case (albeit in a different state) where the judge has taken great issue with the petitioner's single DUI from 4 years ago. The first hurdle for you though is the termination and you should definitely have assistance of an attorney throughout this process. I would not wait to meet with an attorney.
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