Joint legal and physical, but 80/20 split. My emotional damage rendered me unable to properly fight for custody at the time.
She later gave me nearly half custody, but refuses all attempts to move to better schools (nearby) or better economies (farther). She regularly threatens to take the kids away (sole custody), or call the cops for silly reasons. It's a terrible trigger for emotional harm (she knows this), and she does it in front of the kids, too. They ask me why mom yells all the time, for no reason.
I think I understand fairly well what I can do in terms of custody, in a void. But can she ever be held accountable for abusing me and tricking me, to get custodial power? Can I show audio/video of her going nuts, making threats, and so on? Can it actually affect her parental fitness?
It sounds like you're not already working with a family law attorney. That's a BIG mistake. If she is misbehaving, judges will usually take that into consideration.
I agree with Mr. Kronzek; you need to retain an attorney. Secondly, you should get counseling so that you learn to deal with the stress and she can't push your buttons which may 1. help you personally and give you peace and be a better parent; and 2. when she sees that she no longer influences you and you can fight back, she may stop or lessen her poor behavior. At least go have a consultation with an attorney! Good luck!
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