You may be able to get involved in a Pre-Trial Diversion Program that will allow you to complete som counseling and result in a dismissal or reduction of the charges. It is also possible for your husband to go to the prosecutor's office and make out an Affidavit of Election not to Proscute. However this could be tricky where you were both engaged in violent behavior. In the hands of an aggressive prosecutor or investigator, you both could end up being charged. You really need to consult an attorney on this matter. If you cannot afford one, contact the Public Defender's office.
Answering this questioin does not constitute an attorney client relationship with the Law Offices of Eric A. Ballinger or its attorneys. You should consult an attorney in your jurisdiction and familiar with the courts in your venue.