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Who will get custody of my 1 year old child?

San Diego, CA |

I am currently married to a navy officer, who has been on duty the whole year my son has been alive, we are having marital problems and i want to file for divorce, but i am afraid i will lose my baby if he files for child custody.

i have not worked, but i used to a month before i went into labor, working is a part of my future plan. Also i have been married for 1 yr and 6 months. One thing i forgot to add is that he is back, and he is on shore duty, so he wont be shipped backed out according to him. Is the situation still the same?

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Nothing in life is certain, but from the information contained in your question it sounds as if you will end up with primary custody of your child. Although the child is only one year old, your son has no relationship with his father (even though that is not the fault of his father who was on military duty). Your husband will get visitation and I suspect that it will be on a stepped up basis (his time increasing on a set schedule until a maximum on that schedule) has been reached.

However, you will almost definitely have joint legal custody (the right to make legal decisions relating to the child).

I am certainly not the Judge, but this is my opinion based on the limited information available to me.

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No one can answer that question except you and your husband or the judge. There is no reason that merely being unemployed would cost you custody of your child -- it cannot be awarded on financial basis as that would be discriminatory.

Chances are you would have a better chance keeping custody as your navy officer husband will likely be on duty again. It would be in your best interest to seek out the advice of a local attorney -- many offer free consultations.

Stephanie White
Simi Valley, CA

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