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Consider retaining legal representation and save yourself the heartaches. I would be concerned as to whether you have accurately assessed your eligibility for the benefit you are seeking. If you cannot afford an attorney, also consider speaking with military counsel available for military members.
Several reputable and local attorneys offer flexible payment plans. Good luck!
Legal disclaimer: (714) 479-1000 Mr. Zapata's response to your question is general in nature, as not all the facts are known to him. You should retain an attorney experienced in immigration law to review all the facts in your case in order to receive advice specific to your case. Mr. Zapata's statement above does not create an attorney/client relationship.
If you are filing a standalone Form I-130 then you would mail it to Phoenix, AZ since you live in CA. If you are filing Form I-130 with Form I-485, Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status then you would mail it to Chicago, IL. There is no waiver of fees due to your spouse being in the military, but a pending deployment could lead to an expedited processing. I suggest contacting the USCIS Military Help Line at 1-877-CIS-4MIL to support with the expedite.