All this has to be done through court order. It is not something you take on privately. If there is a doubt about paternity, then a DNA test must be done before any parenting class or mediation is ordered and if the man denies paternity but it turns out he really is the father, generally the court will make him pay for the test. If the man signed the Voluntary Acknowledgement of Paternity, then a DNA test is not needed. Since you are a bit confused, you might want to at least consult with a lawyer if not hire one to explain the whole process and help you through it.
Hire an attorney.
Who cares if he doesn't want ot pay? The judge makes the orders and Dad has to obey court orders or face punishment. Who cares what he wants? Why would you even discuss these matters with him?
Again, hire an attorney.
yes you have to take the parenting class and yes you have to mediate. if he refuses, do a petition to hold him in contempt.
you need a lawyer to do a custody case.
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