You need to file for dissolution of marriage if you wish to end the marital relationship. You might start by reaching out to your soon to be ex wife and asking her forgiveness for not supporting her and your child. You then need to be prepared to involve a mental health professional to help your daughter get ready to have a relationship with you. You will also need some coaching about the right things to say to your daughter. There are several "go to" mental health professionals in the Denver Metro area who can be of service. The key to a successful outcome is the mother's willingness to believe that you will now be consistent and involved. If you undertake to enter your daughter's life, you need to be certain that this is not just some passing activity and that you will be in this for the long run. It would be devastating for the child to get to know you and then have to go away. I recommend that you discuss this thoroughly with a skilled family law attorney and make certain that this is something you are committed to. Good luck to you.
You need to make sure that you have addressed your issues and are prepared to be a positive influence on your daughter's life. You need to expect that you may have to start with limited and possibly supervised visitation to start. You have not had any contact for almost all of your daughter's life and it will take time for you to become part of her life. Over time, however, you can become an important and positive part of your child's life if you really want to.
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I agree with each of my colleagues and would like to add some thoughts.
You are doing the right thing by asking how to become involved in your daughter's life. Keep in mind that because you have not been involved to date, the courts are unlikely to allow you to be thrust into her life as if there has been no absence. Assuming mom is not amenable to you returning on the terms that are in teh best interests of your daughter, you are going to have to initiate a proceeding that will determine your parental responsibilities -- most likely a divorce proceeding. Once you do that, a court can eventually enter parenting orders for you.
This is not going to be an easy road to travel. You should seek help from an experienced family law attorney. One of the attortneys at my firm -- or on this website -- would be happy to talk to you bout next steps.
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