New Jersey doesn't have "felonies and misdemeanors", we have "crimes" as opposed to the less serious "disorderly persons offenses" (or even less serious "petty disorderly person offenses.") Only "crimes" are divided into "degrees." 1st or 2nd degree and you'd have been in person, 3d probably not on first offense probably would've been locked yup (3-5 yrs) on subsequent offense, 4th probably not in prison.
That said, you may not have any type of criminal record. If the DV case was her versus you, it's a civil action, not a criminal one. Easy way to tell - get the paperwork; if it says "State of New Jersey vs. [you]" then it's potentially a criminal action. If it doesn't - end of analysis, you can truthfully answer "no" to whether you've been convicted of a crime. Although the DV act is under the 2C (criminal) code, it's civil - the fine, fingerprinting, etc are civil remedies, not criminal. If it is State v. (say, a violation of a DV RO or a criminal charge filed at the same time as the civil action), then it may be criminal or it may be a disorderly person offense. Can't tell based on what you've said.
Also, you can apply to have the civil DV RO dismissed ("final restraining order" doesn't really mean "final"). Generally, you have to wait 18 months since it was entered, and there is a list of factors the court will go through (how serious was the DV, does h/he have reason to be afraid today, did you undergo anger management if ordered to do so, do you two have kids together, etc etc). I've been very successful in getting them dismissed if applying the factors to your facts indicates the restraints are no longer appropriate and the DV order should be dismissed.
I concur with my collegue Mr. Davis. This sounds like a civil resolution, not criminal. Request a copy of the Court's disposition. If it does not contain a reference to a statute, such as 2C:___-__, then it is not criminal in nature.
Even if it does contain a reference to a statute, it may not constitute a crime, as both DP and PDP offenses are not crimes by statutory definition. If you need assistance with figuring this out, get the disposition papers and call my office for a free consultation.
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