First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. Secondly, you would, likely, need to consult with a local personal injury attorney.
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The nexus of a civil rights action against a law enforcement agency is the intentional violation of certain fundamental rights secured under the Constitution. Basically, a civil rights action is a 'Constitutional tort' claim. I fail to see any violation of rights in your statement. There may have been some communication issues between the police agency and the family members, but there is surely no deprivation of rights in this instance.
I agree with the other attorneys in that there does not seem to be a civil rights violation case.
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